Bullying is a Learned Behavior:
Most people are under the assumption that bullying starts at school but that statement couldn't be further from the truth. Many children are bullied long before they ever step foot inside a school. They are bullied at a very early age by their parents, caregivers, uncles, aunts, siblings, cousins, etc. The truth is that you don't have to be a kid to be a bully, you just have to fit the description of one.
A bully is someone who uses superior strength, violence, or uses their influence to intimidate another person. To force someone to do what he or she wants. Their goal is to control, humiliate, degrade or embarrass their victim to gain control or appear superior.
In my personal opinion, any parents and/or adults who use threats and/or intimidation to get what they want out of their children are bullies.
Consider this:
A child is sitting at the kitchen table. Friends or family members are present. The parents begin stating how bad the child is at school. He or she is not good at sports. They have poor hygiene, lack education, or are cracks jokes at the child's expense. They laugh thinking their harsh words are going to somehow put things into perspective and make that kid want to do better. When the reality is you are robbing that child of every ounce of dignity and self-worth they have. The parents laugh and think in their minds that they are setting the child straight, instilling discipline, or teaching a kid to be 'tough.' When the truth is all they are instilling in that child is fear, hate, low self-confidence, low self-esteem, and more often than not that child will be a bully themselves.
Bullying and hate are both learned behaviors. When children are born they are born innocent. They don't know how to bully or hate, but when a parent, caregiver, etc... bullies a child in an attempt to get what they want, they legitimize using threats and/or intimidation as a weapon but pass it off as normal behavior. So ultimately, kids who are bullied at home by their parents or family members will bully their peers.
A bully is someone who uses superior strength, violence, or uses their influence to intimidate another person. To force someone to do what he or she wants. Their goal is to control, humiliate, degrade or embarrass their victim to gain control or appear superior.
In my personal opinion, any parents and/or adults who use threats and/or intimidation to get what they want out of their children are bullies.
Consider this:
A child is sitting at the kitchen table. Friends or family members are present. The parents begin stating how bad the child is at school. He or she is not good at sports. They have poor hygiene, lack education, or are cracks jokes at the child's expense. They laugh thinking their harsh words are going to somehow put things into perspective and make that kid want to do better. When the reality is you are robbing that child of every ounce of dignity and self-worth they have. The parents laugh and think in their minds that they are setting the child straight, instilling discipline, or teaching a kid to be 'tough.' When the truth is all they are instilling in that child is fear, hate, low self-confidence, low self-esteem, and more often than not that child will be a bully themselves.
Bullying and hate are both learned behaviors. When children are born they are born innocent. They don't know how to bully or hate, but when a parent, caregiver, etc... bullies a child in an attempt to get what they want, they legitimize using threats and/or intimidation as a weapon but pass it off as normal behavior. So ultimately, kids who are bullied at home by their parents or family members will bully their peers.